WHAT WOULD YOU TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF IF YOU COULD GO BACK AND OFFER A PIECE OF ADVICE? HERE ARE THE ONES THAT PROBABLY WOULD HAVE BENEFITED ME THE MOST.
[ 1 ] TRUST IN YOURSELF MORE
In this world you're going to run into many people who make you doubt yourself and your ability. But I wish I had learned to have confidence in myself much earlier in life. If I could tell myself this, it would be to trust in my ability more. Even if there's a chance to fail. Because failure is also necessary.
And yes, other people may not understand you sometimes. Not everyone is going to agree with you. People disagreeing with you, or being disappointed in you does not dictate the outcome of your decision. The older you get you really do know what's best for you and your mental health. Be confident in your decisions.
You're also going to be wrong sometimes but being wrong also helps you learn and grow.
"Doubting yourself is normal. Letting it stop you is a choice."
[ 2 ] LISTIN YOUR INSTINCT
There's a reason you get a funny feeling from certain people. And it becomes evident later on.
While it's always nice to give the benefit of the doubt and give people chances, if you have a uneasy feeling about someone, listen to this. Because you don't get this feeling often, it's important to take a step back in moments like this.
[ 3 ] HEARTBREAK
Your first heartbreak won't be from a boyfriend. Yes you will feel sad in when a boyfriend turns into an ex, but you work through it.
The first real heartbreak is losing someone close. Not once but twice. But this time it's permanent.
And you're going to grieve hard and silently.
You will think about all the things you wish you could have done. But the truth is there was nothing you could have done to change the circumstance. And the sooner you understand that the sooner you can start healing.
So when the second time comes around, really appreciate those moments left. Because it goes by much quicker than you realize. Take more pictures. Hug more. Talk about paradise even more.
[ 4 ] PEOPLE WHO DON'T LIKE YOU
You have a strong personality and there's nothing wrong with it. But you will cross paths with people who simply don't like you for you.
Don't take it personal and move on. Some people are going to find you loud and annoying. Some people are going to find you shy and boring. The good thing is it's not your job to make anyone like you. So learn to let it go.
Don't go out of your way to make people like you. You don't deserve to go through that much pressure with people you don't click with anyways! Your time is valuable and precious too.
[ 5 ] LOVE
You have always been very cautious of love and will be for a long time. You will doubt if real love exists. And you will doubt if you're going to actually open up to anyone enough to have a relationship.
You will be heartbroken multiple times. But time really does heal all wounds.
[ 6 ] FRIENDSHIPS
You're going to gain many friends and lose many friends. As you get older you will learn it's not as important the amount of friends you have but the quality of your friends.
You will have friends go for different reasons. And you will try hard to keep these friendships alive. But friendship requires that kind of effort from both sides. And unfortunately this is rare. So when a friendship ends, sit back and think about if this friendship is really worth fighting for. Because chances are they're not a true friend for you anyways.
So instead of being sad when friendships end, just be happy for the memories. Don't dwell on it. You also deserve good friends too. Don't forget this.
[ 7 ] BATTLES
You're going to face many battles alone that no one will know. And my biggest piece of advice is to take control of your perspective.
This does not mean you can't take days to be sad or cry. But when it comes down to it, you truly have all the power of your emotions. There are going to be a lot of things out of your control. That's just the way life rolls.
So on the days you could be upset, angry, or annoyed, challenge yourself and your emotions. See if there is a different way to look at things or respond to things. You will be very surprised how the quality of life changes with this one simple action.
"WHEN YOU CAN NOT CONTROL WHAT IS HAPPENING, CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO CONTROL THE WAY YOU RESPOND TO WHAT IS HAPPENING. THAT IS WHERE YOUR POWER IS." -Chad R.
[ 8 ] MONEY
Of course it's never too late to start a savings. But reflecting back, I do wish I started my savings as soon as I started working rather than in my 20's. This would have been very beneficial! For example, as much as I wanted to pay for my first car in full, it just wasn't possible. Once you have a debt, interest will pile up and you end up paying way more though financing. Tough lesson to learn!
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Thanks for visiting my blog! Brookeosity is pronounced like Brooke + Curiosity combined. This is my Lifestyle blog based in Oklahoma. Here you will read about my love for Oklahoma, how I navigate through life as a twenty-something-year-old, and what motivates me! I write for women like myself who have transitioned to adulthood and are still figuring their lives out.